Housework can be a huge pain. If you’re like most people, you probably wish your spouse would help out more around the house. Unfortunately, convincing your partner to do their fair share of the work can sometimes be difficult. In this blog post, we will discuss 4 tactics that you can use to get your spouse maintenance to help out more around the house!
Talk about your expectations for help around the house in a calm, non-confrontational way.
When it comes to dividing up the work in a household, it is important to communicate expectations in a calm and non-confrontational way. All family members need to be involved in making sure that the house runs smoothly. This doesn’t have to mean lengthy arguments or finger-pointing. Instead, simply schedule out tasks together and determine who will be responsible for each task. Everyone should do their fair share, but make sure that each family member has a few tasks that they can focus on so there’s no pressure on any one person to carry too much of the load. To ensure everything stays fair, it might be helpful to adjust tasks every few months or when needed so everyone remains engaged with helping around the house. With this approach, everyone can be fairly confident that everyone is taking part in making the homework efficiently and without anyone feeling overburdened.
Make a list of specific tasks that you would like help with, and ask your spouse to choose one or two to focus on.
Finding time to attend to all of your household responsibilities can be challenging, especially when you’re juggling multiple priorities. One way to ensure that you can focus on the most essential tasks is to enlist the help of your spouse and clearly define which areas need assistance. Making a list of specific tasks can be helpful, as it will not only provide you with an organised overview of what needs to get done but also give your spouse a wide range of options when it comes to deciding what they would like to do. For example, if meal planning falls onto your plate each week, why not ask them to choose two nights where they could take over in the kitchen and whip up something delicious? Or if you tend to tackle the laundry each week, you could ask them to select either folding or organising the clean clothes as their contribution. Asking your partner for help with distinct, actionable chores and tasks, can empower them and enable both of you to make progress towards tackling shared goals. Ultimately this strategy helps create a partnership while allowing both parties involved to feel satisfied at actively participating in reducing each other’s stress levels. Sit down together and come up with a plan today – you’ll thank yourself later!
You may want to consider making options specific enough so that your loved one isn’t overwhelmed; for example instead of asking for help “cooking,” consider creating meals ahead of time and freezing them so it’s easier — this way someone just has pulled out a dish from the freezer and heat it rather than expending more energy figuring out what needs to be cooked. All in all, working together on tasks provides peace of mind knowing that things are being handled more quickly and efficiently — which is great for everyone involved! So put aside an hour or two this weekend (with everyone present) so y’all can have a serious talk about sharing responsibilities around the house. It’ll be worth it! If done right I promise everyone will feel they are being heard while greatly reducing overall stress at home. Best of luck!
Show appreciation when your spouse does pitch in and help out around the house.
Showing appreciation when your spouse helps out around the house is important for strengthening and maintaining a healthy relationship. While everyday responsibilities often get divided, when one partner takes on extra tasks and contributes above and beyond what has been agreed upon, it deserves recognition. Whether it’s doing the dishes after dinner or doing the laundry on their day off, simple gestures of appreciation can go a long way towards creating an atmosphere of positive reinforcement in a marriage. Acknowledging an effort reinforces that extra help is valued, encourages further assistance and validates the spouse who contributed.
Managing expectations and creating a plan for how household chores will be divided can help take some of the stress out of managing a home. By working together to come up with a system that is fair and reasonable, spouses can show their appreciation for one another by pitching in when needed. Have you tried any of these tips to make managing your home easier? If not, give them a try and see how they work for you.